Comments on: Second date: 3 mistakes to avoid

By: Sebastyne

Sebastyne — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 00:36:22 +0000

Cutaritza, have you read about narcissistic personality disorder? Good thing you’re out, but reading about that might clarify some things for you, why you were so hooked and how he kept you there and why you allowed him to do that to you. It was only a short story you wrote, but it sounded like something I’ve heard so many times before.

Prisqua, I’m glad I found your blog, I think I’ll be coming back for more… 🙂

By: Bri Jeni

Bri Jeni — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 14:24:53 +0000

I’m loving your blog Prisqua! It’s so genuine and real. Even more, I can really relate after having gone through a similar situation with my ex, and later moving to Puerto Vallarta, Mexico to be with my current fiance. Going on 4 years with Jay and 3 years with Mexico, we are now living in Cabo San Lucas and I can’t believe how easily I gave up those beautiful apartments in New York and Princeton, grad school, and nearly everything I owned which I mostly donated to charity. All of a sudden, I look back and wonder, “how did I end up living HERE?” Luckily, I have a wonderful man to share it all with and I wish you the same! Best of luck and remember to never settle- women deserve to be treated well… always.

By: Prisqua

Prisqua — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 23:38:37 +0000

Thank you Cutaritza for sharing. Similar experiences except I put up with it for way too long and lost myself in the process…

By: Rene'

Rene' — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 13:09:31 +0000

I love that song… ah…

By: Cutaritza

Cutaritza — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 12:50:32 +0000

Well I spent an year and 10 months with the guy, even if after 6 month or less he changed into the a not so nice guy. But I was so blinded by the fairy tale of the first love, first man into my life, that I didn’t realized the change. If we had a fight he would blame it on me, he called me stupid, idiot at first he was joking like when you call someone silly, but after a wile he started to be serious about it. He never told me he loved me, he used to say that it’s obvious he doesn’t have to say the words. I loved his mother and sister and even if they always had my back they were another reason for me to stay. If we went out with his friend I wasn’t allowed to drink more than 2 beers, and if I was having fun and laugh or speak to loud he would get mad and make signs under the table to calm me down. He criticized me in every way and every day. He was upset if I wanted to go out with my friends and because I was like a puppy wanting to please the master I lost all my friends. He started to blame me that I didn’t do the dishes THE INSTANT I finished eating, that I didn’t watered HIS flowers every 2 days(I don’t like plants especially that many), why I didn’t change the water of HIS fishes, etc. He was 27 years old, I was 18, stupid but 18. The last 8 months of relationship I was crying once a week or more because of him. I begin to have panic attacks at school because of the low self esteem he put me trough. I considered my self to be ugly, stupid and that I should be grateful to him because I would never find anyone else who will like me. The first boy that told me I’m beautiful and smart made me realized that I had to dump him. I wanted to get married, in my head I thought that will solve everything, luckily I opened my eyes and saw the real sad life I was having and run as fast as I could. We were from different cities and I had all my close at him, when I went back to take them he wanted me to give him a second chance, and I tried but when he tried to show me that he changed he was exactly the same trying to make me think that it’s all my fault, that he is good and kind but it’s something wrong with me, but it didn’t worked that time and I left.

By: Prisqua

Prisqua — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 11:43:22 +0000

Cutaritza, it is no trouble at all, I want to know the whole story.

By: Cutaritza

Cutaritza — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 11:14:20 +0000

I think you’re addicted to love. Maybe you didn’t had so much of love when you were little or maybe you were so loved that now u don’t know how to live without it, it works both ways. I know I am addicted to those around me and in my past relationship I stayed with the guy more than I should have (there is a whole story I don’t want to trouble you with).
I think you just had bad luck in finding guys, the thing is you deserve the best, you seem like a wonderful woman to be with.

Best wishes,
A girl who likes reading you