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About Prisqua

By Prisqua

July 30, 2008

about me, Prisqua

A briefing about my life…

I arrived in Australia in April 1993. I came to see my -at the time- boyfriend, who was French too but all his family, ex-wife and 2 kids were living in Australia where he basically spent most of his life. We met in France and he had to return to Australia to renew his visa but after a few complications and tired of waiting, I sold everything I had to buy my ticket and joined him there. He then decided not to go back to France and who would blame him when he has a whole family here and his kids…

But I came to this country on a tourist visa so I had to leave the country every 3 months for a year. We traveled to New Zealand the first time just overnight. And 3 months later I went again to New Zealand overnight and by myself this time. When I landed back to Australia the immigration officers were waiting for me and ask me to explain why I had left the country twice just for 24hrs… I had to explain that I was here because of my boyfriend, they actually called him to verify our story. The office was quite nice and he said to both of us: “You have 3 months to get married and do your papers otherwise leave the country.”

I was 20. The words “marriage” and “kids” were not part of my vocabulary… never said I would not get married or have kids… but never actually thought about it. We had only been together for about 6 months which was pretty unusual for me as I would usually go out with a guy for about a week. One month
with a guy would be exceptional… Not sure why and how because I can’t say there was any dumping, it would just happen that way. And I did not have the worry about finding another guy, all my friends were guys, only a couple of girlfriends…

And becoming a step-mother did not really phase. He always talked about his son and I actually thought it would be kinda cool to be a step-mum (I wish I had given more thoughts to that one back then lol)!

I was in love so getting married was just another thing to do I suppose. I got nervous a little bit but nothing dramatic. It was just a quick simple wedding with his family. My visa was denied and I had to go back to France where I waited 9 months… and I think I only got it because I fell pregnant and had written to the Embassy to explain to them the change of circumstances.

When I came back to Australia, my husband had move to the Sunshine Coast, which meant the family was about 1.30-2 hrs drive away. I had no friend and was clueless about pregnancy, let alone having a baby! The only thing that had me worried during the pregnancy was the weight gain… then one day I felt different, a bit of pain and some discharge so called his auntie who told me to get my husband to drive me to her place as I was going to give birth in Brisbane… so we did and was admitted to hospital the next day… Only that day it hit me that I was going to give birth and I wanted to go home…. then the nurses asked me the name I had chosen and I said “Amanda” and they replied what if it’s a boy? I said it is not a boy, it is a girl.. I was told in France it was a girl so it is a girl! And they freaking argued with me saying that it was not 100% blah blah blah. And I was right! lol

Having a baby, gave me something to do because I was not allowed to work. I met my best friend 2 years later but other than that we did not have friends because my husband did not like anyone. We never did anything either except spending our time in the family when he was not working. That’s how video games and the internet became a big part in my life…

Then one day he left me. 2001 I think, my son was about 2. Only to find out later that another woman was involved… but it was not so much about the other woman, more how he went about it that shattered me. I completely lost it. Within 3 days I was skin and bones, feeding myself of coffee and cigarettes…drinking, sleeping tablets… ended in the mental ward for a week or so.

Got back together. His son was addicted to drugs and under our care. He decided to take on his nephew who was also on drugs and then he was himself on drugs… 3 years of hell…His son came out of it but not my husband. We separated again. I went out with a guy 10 years younger than me (good anti-depressant if you ask me lol) and he settled with a girl 20 years younger than him (he is 11 years older than me) and only found out because Antony inadvertently told me. He had told the kids not to tell me so that I don’t
get upset…I only got twice as much upset lol

December 2007 I finally decided to give up on my marriage once and for all.

I would like to know what it is like to be with someone who will actually give back as much as I give, who will not just go mad because I am always smiling and talking to people. Someone who will actually like people and to be around them and have friends. Someone who will want to do things, travel,
play tennis, who can watch a whole movie not fall asleep within the first 10 minutes of the movie…

I got married for a visa. If it had not been for the visa I do not think we would have lasted more than a year…But I am glad, I don’t regret. I just want to move one.

So yes, I would love to get re-married except I would omit the “until death do us part”… I would love to know what it is for a man to actually get on his knees and ask me to marry him… and planning something together… Just to enjoy the true meaning of a relationship…

As for children… well I am pretty much happy with my 2… Though once a guy asked me if I wanted more children and I said “hell no!” so he replied: “but your profile says you are undecided?”. He had three kids plus my two, and he wanted more?? That would be close to “Cheaper by the dozen” and I don’t think I could cope with that! Under the right circumstances I would consider because a relationship is all about compromises…

[fland_alert style=”red”] This is the beginning of my man quest, the quest for love… please stand by… [/fland_alert]

Prisqua

About the author

Coffee in the mornings is a must! I hunt and shoot aliens as therapy a few hours every day. Work sometimes demands that I tweet, Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram. I never leave home without my 5 inch stilettos, iPhone and of course a possible good story.

  • Thank You Glenn, very much enjoying your blog too.
    I had forgotten about this page lol and I think it is time to work on the About Me Part 2, so much has happened since the beginning of this blog.
    Thank you to all of you who have taken the time to leave me a message, very much appreciated.
    🙂
    .-= Prisqua´s last blog ..Pants and Panties =-.

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  • I came across this site via BrightKite when I was up at Buderim today.

    Good posts there Prisqua and also you have a beautiful name by the way.

    Thanks for sharing

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  • I was lounging at IBBC waiting for Glitter and found your blog… it’s very interesting, Prisqua! Best wishes ongoing! and for now, i’ll be happy to dance with you and all your cool friends at Insane Beauty! 🙂 sky

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  • Wowzer…My breif story from a guy who loved…

    I met her we got engaged after 3 months, married after 6 more months in 2000. She had a child already which didn’t bother me we had 2 more. Loved, Lived, and hurt she cheated on me I left in Oct of 2007 it was the hardest thing to do…

    I don’t regret so I move on. I see you have too thanks for sharing.

    Jay

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  • hi

    Just came upon your blog by accident while trying to do some design work 🙂 I too am in search for that someone… “someone who will actually give back as much as I give”. There are too many selfish people in this world – and I sometimes feel I don’t really fit in. Won’t bore you with my rambling…just wanted to say hi and hope that we’ll both find that someone 🙂 take care. keep smiling. cheers A

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